1. Infatuation is ruled by feelings, but love’s feelings are ruled by principles. — in the field of infatuation, the feelings are in charge. But the problem is that our feelings are fickle. They change easily. Today i feel great, so i kiss her. Tomorrow i feel terrible, so i kick her. That’s not love!

True LOVE has feelings, tender feelings which are put in the human heart by a caring God. But love is not composed of feelings only. It is a feeling plus principle. Moreover, LOVE is not controlled by feelings. It does not do anything and everything it feels. Rather, in true love, the feelings are under the control of principle.

2. Infatuation is blind, but love sees and examines. — Like Cupid, infatuation is blind. It cannot see and does not wish to see! When a girl recognizes that her boyfriend is hooked on drugs, but still proceeds with plans for marriage, Cupid has wounded her! When a boy observes his girl flirting continuously with other men, but still goes ahead with the love affair, infatuation has blinded him!

True LOVE uses its eyes to see and to examine the strengths and weaknesses of the prospective partner. It is not afraid to ask hard questions nor to do difficult examinations.

3. Infatuation is in a hurry, but LOVE takes time. — Everything of permanent value in life takes time. We can build a shack overnight, but if we are building a house that will stand the fury of a hurricane, that takes time. We can put up an artificial Christmas overnight, but to grow a real tree, takes time. It has to be planted, watered and nourished for weeks, months, or years.

LOVE is a plant – a tender precious plant. Infatuation is ever in a hurry: see her today, court her tomorrow, and marry her the day after! It’ s “love at first sight”. It’s “puppy love.” And someone has rightly said, “Puppy love leads to a dog’s life.” But while this “puppy love” is in a hurry, true LOVE takes time —time to know and time to grow. Knowing a person always takes time and there is no “short cut.” Growing a relationship takes time, and God expects couples in love to “grow up”.

Ephesians 4:15 – Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.